So it's only been less than three days into the new year and there has been so much drama that even Gretchen Weiners can't hold it all in her weave! I swear. "Using" people. Pushovers. Passive children. Shady-ness. Awkwardness between people who once had a beautiful relationship. Is it that hard to just be down for whatever? Or to just speak your fuckin' mind and quit beating around the bush about everything? Or to just have a spine and not let people trample all over you? Or to just talk it out even though it may be awkward?
Saying "no" isn't always a bad thing. But on the other side of the fence, there are those who sort of failed to carry good intentions. But don't be trampled on with them. Keep a strong stance and you'll get your way as long as you're polite. Don't let drugs and drinks get in the way... too much.
If the entire world held a passive tongue, then nothing would ever get done. Sometimes it really does come down to saying a simple "yes" or "no." Don't make things difficult by saying "maybe" or nothing at all! A firm answer will help the world move forward. If you're not down, then say so and boogie off and not waste my time.
I understand that friends don't always have to know what the other is doing. But if it's something really simple to grasp, then why not tell them? If there's a serious problem in one's personal life outside friendships, of course handle yo' thang boo. Just give a little tidbit and they'll back off. But if it's something so small as to what you're going to do after, then just tell us instead of us having to question each others' trust.
Friendships can be tricky, and some fade away into the horizon. But we can all avoid those hazards by just talking things out. If both sides are cooperative, then the bond can grow stronger. But if the seesaw leans a little to one side, then there's a problem; it has to be addressed right away. But maybe sometimes one side doesn't try as hard. Or maybe they actualy don't realize the problem. In the first case: If one has tried to get together while the other hasn't, then maybe it is best to just drop it. And for the second case: Start off by having a one-on-one sort of session and play it by ear. Friendships can disappear, but make sure your friends don't become your frenemies. At least stay neutral.
It's 2009. We're all about to be nineteen years-old. Why can't we face our real problems and realize our own downfalls, instead of living in an episode of Gossip Girl.
With much concern,
Ricardo Juni
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